For a while I was the assistant to my boss at the Institute
for Physical and Mental Well Being –
where I worked for a couple years –
in New Mexico.
My boss was one of several co-founders –
we called him Max – his boxing name –
his real name was Leonard. Anyway.
I was in charge of arranging all of his appointments –
Max made sure everyone meditated
ate their vegetarian meals
and walked or swam once a day.
Most people really loved Max.
Well I got to spend a lot of time with Max.
I was falling in love with Max –
I guess –
even though he was married – with kids – and grandkids!
I felt pretty damn certain he was in love with me too – his gaze –
his responsiveness –
all the mutual everything.
At one point – what the hell – I was so pumped by all this love –
vibrating – I went to the store
and bought a pack of condoms.
But the weirdest thing– in the midst of my love –
when I tried to picture sex with him –
which I really wanted –
I thought –
I kept visualizing a brutal thing–
my legs held apart and–
is this what you want? – over and over –
is this what you want? is this what you want? –
not waiting for an answer –
not kind – and I couldn’t answer – stunned and silent.
Is this what you want?
(Photo by Alison Bank)